This blog is about polyamory, queerness, and sex positivity -- I will chronicle my musings, opinions, advice, adventures, and misadventures in open relationships and exploring my gender and sexuality. Come along for the ride!
Your Host:
I am an early 20's polyamorous queer and genderqueer sometimes-ladyish person looking to create a society of understanding and acceptance of polyamory and sex positivity. Since most people are either unaware, unsupportive, or have misconceptions of polyamory, this blog is critical. And awesome. And will definitely make you smile. That's what really matters in the world, right? Right.
The most important thing about this blog is that it's here not just for me, but for you. With such a small (but growing!) polyamorous community online, it's important that we advocate for each other and speak up. This is my way of doing so. Please feel free to ask me questions or request topics for me to speak on.
[And peruse the links below for a better understanding of what Polycule is all about.]
Catching Elephant is a theme by Andy Taylor
Welcome to my humble internet abode! I think you’ll find the weather quite nice in these parts.
I like to write something like this whenever I get a handful of new followers, because I want you all to feel like you can know me as more than just a person who puts words on the internet, and to get a feel for the important things that go down here. Consider this your welcome packet. Polycule Orientation, if you will. I promise there won’t be a test at the end. Come introduce yourself and say hi to me! I want to know you, too.
What:
A blog about polyamory, queer rights, and sex positivity, consisting mostly of advice and my own experiences.
Polyamory is a hybrid Latin/Greek word meaning “many loves,” and it’s exactly what it sounds like. It’s a relationship paradigm in which partners are committed to and invested in each other, yet free to explore outside relationships in a healthy, consensual, and loving dynamic. Polyamory takes many forms, and there is no one right way to do it except that it requires honest and open communication, and a big heaping dose of vulnerability and self-reflection.
Sex positivity is a state of loving, accepting, encouraging, and supporting everyone (most importantly yourself) in their sexuality. In the safe space of my blog, you will never be made to feel like a whore, a prude, or anything in between. You are just you. We all exist in this world with opinions and preferences about our sexuality, and sex positivity exists to make all those wide and varying opinions and preferences safe and open and accepted.
Why:
I’m here because I felt alone when I started exploring polyamory. The handful of blogs I found were great, but I needed more, so I started this blog to contribute giving my voice and face to our community alongside others, to create a support system for each other, communicating and growing together and sharing sex advice life stories and experiences. You’ll often find me providing (amateur) advice for people, so if you ever need anything, consider me a 24-hour on-call blogger.
Your host:
I’m 23 & I’m a queer and genderqueer polyamorist. I’ll take gender-neutral pronouns with a side of femme-androgyny, please.
What else?
I live in New York City. I do the corporate America thing for money, and I love my job, but it’s not my everything. The everything is that I’m a painter, an activist, a skeptic, a secular humanist, and a sex positivist. That’s not a word, but now it is.
What the fuck is a polycule?
I first heard the term from this article about Koe Sozuteki, who was raised in a polyamorous household. She was drawing a chart of her parents’ various and intertwined relationships and noted that it looked like a molecule drawing, or a “polycule.” I love it. It fits my needs perfectly. It defines my “flavor” of polyamory really well.
What’s your flavor of polyamory?
I think it’s probably best defined as “free love polyamory.” Wherein some poly people have rules and boundaries and off-limits behaviors with their partners or hierarchies of importance within their relationships, my partners and I have just one demand: honesty and integrity. That means respect, support, and encouragement in every action. If I keep things from my partners, we can’t know each other fully, and we can’t support each other wholly. I prefer my partners know and like each other and are friends, because it feels funky to keep parts of my life separated. As you might imagine, this isn’t always the easiest thing in the world.
Important places you should stop by:
PolyculeTV is the web series that I co-host. We talk about polyamory, relationships, sex, advice, aliens, slut-shaming, body-shaming, and we curse and laugh and drink a lot of wine. We created it because we noticed a gap in good, productive, positive, encouraging (and sometimes silly) sex ed and advice for young people especially. (I mean really have you seen sex ed curricula? It’s atrocious.)
Other useful clickable words:
This is the post where I explain how I got into polyamory. These are posts written by guest bloggers. And this is where you can find all the posts I’ve written about my personal relationships. And these are other posts about polyamory I’ve deemed important. And this is where you can ask me questions (about anything in the whole wide world), and you can also request topics for me to write about.
What else you will find here:
Posts about sex positivity, atheism, feminism, LGBTQ rights, reproductive rights, trans* equality, genderqueer issues, religion, and Carl Sagan.
Like I said, please feel free to ask me anything you want to know regarding your own life, my own life, polyamory, sex, sexuality, or how you can possibly have two partners that are friends with each other.
I write this blog for you just as much as I write it for myself. We’re in this together, after all, right?
Right.
