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Another view on use of the term “pro-life”

themoralperspective:

Typically the term “pro-life” is applied to people who say they oppose the right to abortion because they belief God creates all life in his image (even when life is still only a collection of cells) and any disruption of that process is equivalent to murder. 

Yet New York Times columnist Thomas Friedman says this typical use of “pro-life” is misleading, and distorts the way people think about politics. To Friedman, “respect for life has to include respect for how that life is lived, enhanced and protected — not only at the moment of conception but afterward, in the course of that life.”  

In my world, you don’t get to call yourself “pro-life” and be against common-sense gun control — like banning public access to the kind of semiautomatic assault rifle, designed for warfare, that was used recently in a Colorado theater. You don’t get to call yourself “pro-life” and want to shut down the Environmental Protection Agency, which ensures clean air and clean water, prevents childhood asthma, preserves biodiversity and combats climate change that could disrupt every life on the planet. You don’t get to call yourself “pro-life” and oppose programs like Head Start that provide basic education, health and nutrition for the most disadvantaged children. You can call yourself a “pro-conception-to-birth, indifferent-to-life conservative.” I will never refer to someone who pickets Planned Parenthood but lobbies against common-sense gun laws as “pro-life.” 

“Pro-conception-to-birth, indifferent-to-life conservative.” That has a nice ring to it.

I know in your mind you can think of times when America was attacked. One is December 7th, that’s Pearl Harbor day. The other is September 11th, and that’s the day of the terrorist attack, I want you to remember August the 1st, 2012, the attack on our religious freedom. That is a day that will live in infamy, along with those other dates.

Mike Kelly (R-Pennsylvania)

Shit like this is fucking gross, and highly fucking disrespectful to the victims of actual attacks.

(via abaldwin360)

Sooo…religious freedom is dead in America now?  Does that mean that all the churches are closed and all the Bibles burned?

(via religiousragings)

I cannot believe that this is even real.

religiousragings:

abaldwin360:

A young black Arkansas high school student shot in the head while double cuffed in rear seat of squad car. Police say the was death self inflicted with a concealed weapon despite 2 previous body searches.

Put your hands behind your back like you’re handcuffed.  Pretend you have a gun in your waistband.  Try to shoot yourself in the right temple.  It can’t be done.  Even a shot in the back of the head would be exceedingly difficult.

If the police sincerely didn’t do this, they wouldn’t even try to pretend it was a suicide and they’d be looking for another gunman who shot their suspect while their backs were turned.  This is pure bullshit, and even the news isn’t buying the official explanation.

You need to be suspicious of every police officer if you aren’t already. Especially if you are not a cisgender white male. This is not an isolated incident.

newly-poly-nyc:

stfuconservatives:

thedailywhat:

Political Spat of the Day: Mitt Romney’s wife Ann joined Twitter this week to publicly refute DNC adviser Hilary Rosen’s assertion on CNN that, “Guess what, his wife has actually never worked a day in her life.”
“I made a choice to stay home and raise five boys,” reads Romney’s first tweet, posted shortly after Rosen’s comments aired. “Believe me, it was hard work.”
The Obama campaign jumped to Romney’s defense.
“I could not disagree with Hilary Rosen any more strongly. Her comments were wrong and family should be off limits. She should apologize,” tweeted Obama campaign manager Jim Messina.
Rosen responded via Twitter: “I’ve nothing against @AnnRomney. I just don’t want Mitt using her as an expert on women struggling $ to support their family. She isn’t.”
While no Betty White, Romney has 18,000 followers and counting.
[thehill]

And then — because Republicans hate it when someone gaffes bigger than them — this happened:
@CatholicLeague: Lesbian Dem Hilary Rosen tells Ann Romney she never worked a day in her life. Unlike Rosen, who had to adopt kids, Ann raised 5 of her own.
Parenting adopted children is equally difficult to parenting biological children. There’s no reason to make the distinction that, yeah, Ann Romney had biological children with her partner, but OMG Rosen didn’t so she must not understand motherhood.
I mean, Rosen’s point is correct: Ann Romney isn’t an expert on raising children while working outside the home and struggling to pay the bills. She just put it poorly, because OF COURSE being a mom is hard work. It’s just not *as* hard when you literally never have to worry about money in any way, shape or form. 
Oh and then:
@alicetweet: Being a mother is the most valuable work a woman can do, my heart goes out to @hilaryr children if she doesn’t believe that
Ummm there’s really no need to concern-troll Rosen’s children. And really, really no need to assert that child-rearing is the MOST valuable work a woman can do. Sigh.
-Jess



I think the problem is that Ann Romney is trying to label us all as “you don’t understand how hard it is to be a mother! It’s so much harder than your silly 9-5 job!” But, Annie, no one is saying that. No would dare say parenting isn’t the hardest job on the planet. I also would’ve thought that no one would dare say biological parents have it harder than adoptive parents, but I’ve been known to be wrong once or twice in my life.
The point is, you cannot use your personal experience to try and come off as understanding and connected to the majority of people. Your life as a parent, while difficult, is the parenting lifestyle most parents dream of. An almost unlimited amount of funds, access to great school systems, a supportive (albeit delusional) partner, a community that works together, five children who’ve likely never stepped too far out of line, your job as a parent has been a cakewalk compared to most others’ experiences.
I am not saying her job is easy, but with the life she has (granted to her mostly because of her and her spouse’s wealth) puts her in an infinitely better position to do her job well. Anyone can say to a single parent working two jobs and trying to raise kids safely in an inner city neighborhood, with no support from their schools or community, that they’ve got it pretty tough. And when those parents succeed and do well, often it’s considered the exception, not the rule. Ann, you are not the exception. You are the standard at which most people wish they had the opportunity to perform.

newly-poly-nyc:

stfuconservatives:

thedailywhat:

Political Spat of the Day: Mitt Romney’s wife Ann joined Twitter this week to publicly refute DNC adviser Hilary Rosen’s assertion on CNN that, “Guess what, his wife has actually never worked a day in her life.”

“I made a choice to stay home and raise five boys,” reads Romney’s first tweet, posted shortly after Rosen’s comments aired. “Believe me, it was hard work.”

The Obama campaign jumped to Romney’s defense.

“I could not disagree with Hilary Rosen any more strongly. Her comments were wrong and family should be off limits. She should apologize,” tweeted Obama campaign manager Jim Messina.

Rosen responded via Twitter: “I’ve nothing against @AnnRomney. I just don’t want Mitt using her as an expert on women struggling $ to support their family. She isn’t.”

While no Betty White, Romney has 18,000 followers and counting.

[thehill]

And then — because Republicans hate it when someone gaffes bigger than them — this happened:

@CatholicLeague: Lesbian Dem Hilary Rosen tells Ann Romney she never worked a day in her life. Unlike Rosen, who had to adopt kids, Ann raised 5 of her own.

Parenting adopted children is equally difficult to parenting biological children. There’s no reason to make the distinction that, yeah, Ann Romney had biological children with her partner, but OMG Rosen didn’t so she must not understand motherhood.

I mean, Rosen’s point is correct: Ann Romney isn’t an expert on raising children while working outside the home and struggling to pay the bills. She just put it poorly, because OF COURSE being a mom is hard work. It’s just not *as* hard when you literally never have to worry about money in any way, shape or form. 

Oh and then:

@alicetweet: Being a mother is the most valuable work a woman can do, my heart goes out to @hilaryr children if she doesn’t believe that


Ummm there’s really no need to concern-troll Rosen’s children. And really, really no need to assert that child-rearing is the MOST valuable work a woman can do. Sigh.

-Jess

I think the problem is that Ann Romney is trying to label us all as “you don’t understand how hard it is to be a mother! It’s so much harder than your silly 9-5 job!” But, Annie, no one is saying that. No would dare say parenting isn’t the hardest job on the planet. I also would’ve thought that no one would dare say biological parents have it harder than adoptive parents, but I’ve been known to be wrong once or twice in my life.

The point is, you cannot use your personal experience to try and come off as understanding and connected to the majority of people. Your life as a parent, while difficult, is the parenting lifestyle most parents dream of. An almost unlimited amount of funds, access to great school systems, a supportive (albeit delusional) partner, a community that works together, five children who’ve likely never stepped too far out of line, your job as a parent has been a cakewalk compared to most others’ experiences.

I am not saying her job is easy, but with the life she has (granted to her mostly because of her and her spouse’s wealth) puts her in an infinitely better position to do her job well. Anyone can say to a single parent working two jobs and trying to raise kids safely in an inner city neighborhood, with no support from their schools or community, that they’ve got it pretty tough. And when those parents succeed and do well, often it’s considered the exception, not the rule. Ann, you are not the exception. You are the standard at which most people wish they had the opportunity to perform.

(Source: thedailywhat)