This blog is about polyamory, queerness, and sex positivity -- I will chronicle my musings, opinions, advice, adventures, and misadventures in open relationships and exploring my gender and sexuality. Come along for the ride!
I am an early 20's polyamorous queer and genderqueer sometimes-ladyish person looking to create a society of understanding and acceptance of polyamory and sex positivity. Since most people are either unaware, unsupportive, or have misconceptions of polyamory, this blog is critical. And awesome. And will definitely make you smile. That's what really matters in the world, right? Right.
The most important thing about this blog is that it's here not just for me, but for you. With such a small (but growing!) polyamorous community online, it's important that we advocate for each other and speak up. This is my way of doing so. Please feel free to ask me questions or request topics for me to speak on.
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possiblysilently replied to your post: I’ve been having chonic halitosis for the last week and I’m not getting kisses anymore. It’s making me cry now because no matter how much I brush my teeth and stuff, I can’t seem to get rid of it. I did some research on it and now I think it might be caused by diabetes. I feel so scared and alone right now, and nobody seems to get the message that I really need some hugs and kisses right now. Of course, with my halitosis nobody wants to get close to me even if I’ve just brushed my teeth. HELP!!!
I think they were looking for advice on intimacy issues. Even when something is treatable people need emotional support. We live in such an ableist society, so I can see why they were seeking relationship help in a place that discussed those topics.
You are probably right. It’s just, the person who needs advice isn’t the one asking me. It’s their partner that needs to be more understanding. I’ve been the partner in a similar situation, and it is hard, but you fucking stick your chin up and support your partner because you love them and that is all that matters.
This advice is not rocket science. You just….you have to be there for the people in your life when they need you. You have to know how to ask for support, and you have to know how to give it, no matter what the situation is.
I wish I could say “be strong and beautiful, you don’t need hugs and kisses, you just need to be there for yourself,” but that doesn’t always work. Sometimes you need someone by your side to help you through the shitty shit, and if they aren’t willing to do that, no amount of advice I give can change that.