This blog is about polyamory, queerness, and sex positivity -- I will chronicle my musings, opinions, advice, adventures, and misadventures in open relationships and exploring my gender and sexuality. Come along for the ride!
I am an early 20's polyamorous queer and genderqueer sometimes-ladyish person looking to create a society of understanding and acceptance of polyamory and sex positivity. Since most people are either unaware, unsupportive, or have misconceptions of polyamory, this blog is critical. And awesome. And will definitely make you smile. That's what really matters in the world, right? Right.
The most important thing about this blog is that it's here not just for me, but for you. With such a small (but growing!) polyamorous community online, it's important that we advocate for each other and speak up. This is my way of doing so. Please feel free to ask me questions or request topics for me to speak on.
[And peruse the links below for a better understanding of what Polycule is all about.]
“In a free and open society, and particularly one with a constitutional protection of free speech, I think we do have to respect peoples right to express their opinions, even if we have absolutely no respect for the opinion they express.”
I’m sorry, no. If freedom of speech existed in its purest form, we wouldn’t have people in this country being persecuted by the law for saying whatever they want. I had a friend get arrested and held in prison overnight because a cop overheard him talk about how much he hates the government and law enforcement. When free speech is actually free, then maybe we can use that as a crutch to support an argument like that.
Even so, I do not have to respect someone who is blatantly offending me. I don’t have to say “oh well she has a right to say it because goddamn it this is America where people can be as ignorant as they want and hide behind the law because of it.” When people use freedom of speech as a means to get away with saying whatever horribly offensive and destructive thing they want and then demand respect for that?
I am not here to say that people can’t have differing (and even offensive) opinions. But I don’t have to respect someone’s statements that are wrong, misinformed, and judgmental. I will continue to demand from humankind that we educate ourselves, eliminate ignorance and bigotry, and respect everyone’s rights to live the way they choose. And I will not respect someone who continues to live in ignorance of diversified lifestyles.
“The right to be heard does not automatically include the right to be taken seriously.”
Actually, I’d get behind a statement more like “the right to have words come out of your mouth does not automatically include the right for me not to argue with you because of those words.”
Why does it feel like we live in a world where we can’t get offended by, or have a desire to change, a person’s horrible opinions? For the sake of free speech? So often I hear “yeah they’re offensive and stupid, but they have a right to be.” And this to me feels like being told I have to put up with it and can’t work actively to change it because that person has a “right” to be a bigot.
Not accepting that.